Friday, March 4, 2011

Charlie Sheen A Third Born out of Control?

                            
Charlie Sheen, actor and star of the TV show Two and a Half Men, 
has been in the news.  His life and lifestyle are being exposed to
public scrutiny so it is time to unmask his birth order. His birth order
will let us see what makes Charlie so likable while at the same time
he appears unbalanced and self destructive.

·        Family and Siblings
Charlie’s parents Martin and Janet Sheen changed their name from
Estevez before Charlie was born to make it less ethnic and help
Martin’s acting career. Their firstborn was Emilo, May 12, 1962. 
Next, Ramon August 7, 1963, Charlie September 3, 1965 and 
last and the only girl, Renee April 2, 1967. Charlie was born Carlos 
Irvin Estevez and the only child to use Sheen as his last name.  This 
should have been the signal that life was going to be different with 
Charlie.

·        Characteristics of the Third Born
                     When the third child is born he has to understand 14 different 
                     relationships in the family. Those between all his siblings, parents 
                     and himself in different combinations.  This is what makes the
                     third born such a master at understanding and working with
                     groups of people.  They can be the most sensitive and intuitive
                     people as they pick up on the subtleties of those around them.
                     Understanding others makes them likable as they truly feel you      
                     pain. They are masters of playing one sibling against the other and
                     are good at coming and going emotionally. They see the world very
                     differently than the first- and second borns. Power over others or
                     the control of their own space in not as important as their need to
                     express themselves in humanitarian or artistic ways. In life, this birth
                     order has more freedom to experience the non-traditional aspects 
                     of society on a more personal level. Drugs, sex, and alcohol
                     immediately come to mind. Because of the third born’s extreme
                     sensitivity they can project a tough outer appearance but this is 
                     only a sham to protective their sensitive side.   


·        Third Born with Two Older Brothers
                    All third borns share a number of similar characteristics but they
                    display them differently. The gender of the two older siblings has
                    a great deal of influence on the behavior of the third born. In
                    Charlie’s family it has been said that he had an adversarial 
                    relationship with his two older brothers, Emilo and Ramon. 
                    There can be a lot of testosterone with three boys.This is the 
                    clue that he was trying to move up the birth order ladder.The 
                    child with the lower birth order always wants to move up but 
                    usually the third born doesn’t have a chance because the age gap
                    is too large. Most third borns just ignore their older siblings and
                    go in a different direction rather than compete.  Not so with Charlie.

·        The Move Up - Sibling Rivalry
                    What would give Charlie as a child the thought that he could 
                    challenge his siblings and try to move up in birth order. We don’t
                    know what happened in the home during this period of his life but
                    a few clues can lead us in this investigation. As an adult Charlie is
                    taller than his two older brothers. Charlie is 5’10”, Emilo the 
                    oldest is 5’6”, and the second brother Ramon is 5’7”.  If Charlie
                    grew early this would have been a factor in the challenge for the
                    higher position.  It should also be noted that the second brother
                    Ramon was named after his father.  This is very unusual as the
                    first born usually gets his father’s name.  Perhaps his older brother
                    Emilo felt a little less secure after Ramon was born.  This was 
                    another opening for Charlie. 

·        Like Father Like Son
                    Martin Sheen, Charlie’s father was born Ramon Estevez the seventh 
                    of ten children.  This makes his birth order a second level number
                    three (Birthorder numbers start again after number four) very similar
                    to Charlie. Martin wanted to be an actor so badly that it is said he
                    purposely failed his entrance exam to college so he could start his
                    acting career. We see a similar pattern with Charlie who was not
                    much of a student in high school, his interests were acting and 
                    baseball. Charlie got his first acting role at age nine with a part in his
                    father’s movie, The Execution of Private Slovik. He was the star
                    shortstop and pitcher on his high school team but a few weeks
                    before graduation he was expelled due to poor attendance and
                    bad grades.This was also the first time there is a mention of the
                    influence of drugs in his life. He has since gone through rehab for
                    this problem.

·        What the Future may Hold
                    What will be the future for this likable third born.  Will he enter rehab
                    again and kick his drug habit?  Is a stable marriage in his future? 
                    Third borns are very protective of their sensitive nature so when the
                    tough fa├žade is lost a tidal wave of emotion and a meltdown can 
                    occur. As with all birth orders you have a choice to use your special 
                    characteristics for a positive life or go in a negative direction.  Only
                    Charlie can determine his future.