Friday, February 23, 2018
This newly released book is the story of Nettie Sachs, an
immigrant born in Lithuania in 1885. Coming to America
opened a world of opportunities for her. Educated in New
York as a pharmacist she life was an adventure in America..
She experienced the Spanish American war, Galveston
Hurricane of 1900, Louisiana Exposition in St. Louis in 1904,
ending with bootlegging and speakeasy’s in Chicago. Married
five times, widowed twice, she gave birth to six children.
Nettie was murdered by her fifth husband when she was only
37 years old. Her last father –in –law was envious of her
wealth and wanted to claim it for his own. He used his son,
13 years her junior to marry her, then kill her. This true story
and the trial for her murder was the headline in papers across
the country in 1923.
Characters and Birth Order
When stories are told and books are written they develop the
personalities of their characters with the story. Without
knowing it, they all fit their birth order personalities. This is
especially true when the story is true and not fiction. This is
the case with this book. The following are the birth orders of
the main characters.
Our central character is Nettie. She had four older siblings
but there was a large age gap between her next older sister
and Nettie. This gave Nettie a five/only double birth order.
The five is a second level #1 so Nettie was a very put together
woman that was very much in charge. Her Only traits gave
her the ability to take charge and push forward with great
Second Husband Louis Zauderer
Louis Zauderer was her second husband. He had a double
birth order of a 2/1. Louis started the second group of
children in the family as he had a much older brother. He
also had a younger sister a 3/2 who must have dethroned
him. She married a very wealthy attorney and their parents
moved into his house in New York. Louis never got over
the dethroning and turned to drugs and alcohol. He was a
very unhappy man all his life. He had multiple wife’s after
Nettie’s best friend Anna
Anna was a third born with older brothers. She was shy and
protected by her older brothers. This made her very timid and
careful when she was on her own. Laughing on the outside
but crying on the inside. When she got older she developed a
very tough exterior to protect her inner self, the number three
doesn’t want anyone to know how vulnerable they are.
This was Nettie’s older brother in Houston. (He spelled his
name differently) He had a One/Only double birth order very
similar to Nettie’s Five/Only. This was the reason they got
along so well and he was very supportive of her. He help
finance her education, she in turn named her first child for
him.. Edward was a very successful businessman in Houston.
Dr. Samuel Herskovitz
Sam was Nettie’s third husband. He was a number four birth
order. The baby in the family that everyone wanted to help.
Women especially were fond of “taking care” of Sam. He had
a very interesting relationship with an older woman who
helped him during his medical school education. Sam was a
driven man especially in his profession but didn’t mind
taking a back seat to Nettie who had the superior birth order.
Harry was Nettie’s fifth husband and her murderer. He was a
firstborn that was coddled by his immigrant parents. He could
do no wrong and was given anything he wanted. This
developed in him an ego and superior attitude. He felt laws
were for others and that he was smarter than everyone else.
A small time wise guy in the 1920’s. His luck ran out when
he was convicted of Nettie’s murder.
I think you will enjoy this book now that you understand some
of the character’s birth orders. Real life is sometimes stranger
than fiction. You can learn more about birth order in my book
Life’s Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your Path
Throughout Life. If you buy The Heartless Murder of Nettie
Sachs, I will send you a code to get the audio version of Life’s
Fingerprint Free. You can reach me through my website
Monday, February 19, 2018
Rachel Maddow, Television host, writer and political
commentator is seen almost every night on MSNBC
TV. Maddow became the first openly gay anchor to
host a major prime-time news program in the United
States. She was born in Castro Valley California
April 1, 1973. He father was a former United States
Air force captain currently a lawyer. Her mother was
a school program administrator. She has an older brother.
Sibling Rivalry is seen primarily as the competition between
the first two siblings. It’s not a new concept as it was
discussed in the bible between siblings Cain and Able. The
gender of the siblings can modify and color the struggle for
power for the number one position. The effects of this rivalry
can last a lifetime. The firstborn is usually the student and
the second born the athlete. Dethroning occurs if the second
born becomes the better student as they already are the better
athlete. The firstborn will then drop out as they now have
nothing to make them special. The reverse is also true where
the firstborn is both the student and athlete. Then the second
born may drop out as he has been “kept in line” by the older
sibling. Sometimes it appears there is no rivalry at all. Not
true, the two siblings may feel secure in their positions or are
afraid to challenge the other. The sibling rivalry relationship
is fluid and he can arise later in life if one of the siblings
perceives a weakness in the other.
Rachel and Her Brother
Rachel was born in 4-1-1973, three years nine months younger
than her brother David born 7-11-69. In high school Rachel
played basketball, volleyball and was a swimmer. David said
the two of them didn’t have an easy childhood. It has been
reported that Rachel use to wear his clothes. As a teenager
she would beat him up although she was three years younger.
She used to tell his girlfriends that she was more of a man
then him. He states that he really found it hard to find his own
identity. Rachel was so focused on his dethroning that early
on it looks like she was trying to change her gender identity.
There is no doubt that Rachel took the education prize
from her brother. She graduated at the top of her high-
school class and gave the commencement speech veering
from the script and shocking the school administrators.
She went on to Stanford University and was a recipient
of a Rhodes Scholarship to Lincoln College, Oxford.
This is where she earned a Doctor of Philosophy in
Politics. David went to the University of California
David is single living in San Francisco in 2017. A story
is told that his life changed the day his Uncle Bert gave
him a gun for Christmas while he was still in college.
He said that was the last time Rachel beat him up, it
changed his life. His father says that David has had a
hard time finding out what he wants to do but is a really
good kid. Rachel is openly gay having been outed in
college. Her life partner is Susan Mikula an artist. Their
first date was at a National Rifle Association event.
Sibling rivalry never ends.
Rachel shows us what can happen when Sibling rivalry
goes to extremes. Gender identity can be part of the
dethroning process. When a younger sibling moves up to
the firstborn position they then have to take on the
responsibilities of the firstborn. This is the unforeseen
issue with successful dethroning.
For more information about birth orders and sibling rivalry
you can find it in my book Life’s Fingerprint: How Birth
Order Affects Your Path Throughout Life. Or go to my
website www.lifesfingerprint.com . The book is also
available as an Audio Book. If you contact me I will
send you a code to download the book Free.
Thursday, January 18, 2018
Prince Harry and Meghan
The British Royal family is in the news with the upcoming
marriage of Prince Harry and Meghan Markle. The mystery
of attraction and the enduring stability of a marriage or
relationship has eluded men and women from the beginning
of time. Not anymore. By using birth order theory, we can
reveal the answer to this question. Prepare to be enlightened.
Love at First Sight
Is there such a thing as love at first sight? The answer is
yes. Using birth order we find there are two types. The first
one is the most exciting, when you meet someone with your
exact same birth order. You see life the same and react to
others in a similar manner. In a sense, you are seeing yourself
in a mirror. The attraction is intense. The problem begins
when you both want to occupy the same space. There can
only be one image in the mirror at a time. This strong initial
attraction can become a lifetime commitment as soon as the
two people decide who is the one that will be in the mirror,
and learn to give and take in the relationship. The second
type of love at first sight is when you meet someone with the
exact birth order position of one of your siblings. Gender
makes a difference, it must be an exact match for birth order
and gender. If the gender is different then you see the person
in the light of a different gender. This type of love at first sight
is not as exciting as the first type, but is comfortable and long
Prince Harry a Second Born
Prince Harry is the second born. As a child his brother was
referred to as the heir and Harry the spare. The Second born
is sometimes referred to as the middle child, this only applies
if there are three children. In reality, a second child’s
personality does not need a third child to develop. The second
child wants to be as different as he can be from his older
sibling.This is the child that you don’t tell what to do. He is
usually more athletic than his older sibling who would be the
better student. At Eton College, Harry’s former teachers said
he was a weak student but excelled in sports, particularly polo
and rugby. After school he entered the Royal Military
Academy becoming an accomplished Apache helicopter pilot.
On the personal side, he has earned a reputation for being
rebellious having the press label him a “wild child”. During a
holiday in Las Vegas he was photographed naked playing strip
billiards. Marrying an American woman, and one of mixed-race,
is just another way this second born is showing that he is
different from his older brother.
Harry’s Girls Friends
It has been reported that Harry has had two significant
relationships. The first was Chelsy Davy from South Africa,
this lasted for five years. She was quite an athlete and her
birth order was the same as Harry’s, a number two. This
would have been a natural love at first sight for both of
them. Obviously they never worked out who would be the
one image in the mirror. Harry had a shorter relationship
with Cressida Bonas of only two years. She was from
England and of a royal lineage. She was the fifth of the five
siblings she lived with. There is a four-year gap between
Cressida and her next oldest sibling. This gives her the
Double birth order of a five/only. Birth order numbers repeat
after number four so a five is much like a number one but a
little less pushy. She gets the Only birth order because of the
time she spent at home while her older siblings were at school.
Her relationship with Harry was almost the other type of love
at first sight. Harry does have a firstborn brother, but Cressida
has a second born sister. Not a perfect match for either of
Harry is now engaged to Meghan Markle. Meghan has a
Double birth order. She has two older siblings 12 and 15
years her senior. This makes her a Third born but because
of the large gap in age from her older siblings she also
gets the Only birth order. She interacted with her older
siblings while she was growing up but lived in a different
household. The Only/Three birth order gives her multiple
characteristics. The Only side gives her self-confidence
and a much more adult personality than Harry. Her three
side gives her an ability to read people and situations.
You might say she can easily manipulate people with this
very strong but subtle double birth order. She likes to be
center stage and she usually gets what she wants. Her next
older sibling is a boy and makes an exact birth order match
Harry and Meghan
Harry must be fascinated by Meghan as he has no idea how
someone with an Only/Three birth order behaves. He had no
girls in his family and no one in the three position. He cannot
possibly understand her and that may be why he is so
attracted to her. Meghan has a brother in the number two
position, this allows her to understand Harry. This gives her
an advantage. It will take Harry some time to unmask
Meghan’s real personality.
All birth order combinations can work; some just take more
work. Understanding your spouse is easier if you have grown
up with a sibling of the same birth order. For Harry, this is
going to be difficult, he has no sisters and no third sibling. He
may never understand Meghan. For her, the prize, her Prince,
may be difficult to control or manipulate. If she tries to tell
Harry what to do, it may be the end of the marriage. Having
an older brother that is also a number two will be very helpful
to her. For Harry, he will be marrying two people, an Only and
a Three. This should make things interesting and should keep
both Harry and Meghan at the top of their game.
For more information about birth orders and specifically
Double Birth Orders you can find it in my book Life’s
Fingerprint: How Birth Order Affects Your Path Throughout
Life by Dr. Robert V.V. Hurst. The book is also available as
an Audio book from audible. If you contact me through our
website, www.lifesfingerprint.com I will send you a Free
code for the download.